How can some view weakness as a strength?

This is all about perception, bottom line and resilience, top line.

Perception first:

Using the famous SWOT analysis as an analogy for one’s life, how we handle decisions, changes and circumstances more or less dictates how we navigate through our years. By using the SWOT model you can start to see that a strength is relative to the opportunity and threat that coexist with it. Strength therefore, doesn’t live in isolation of the other elements of the model. Weakness is exactly the same. Weakness is relative to opportunity and threat too. Now here’s the cool part;

By understanding your strengths you can isolate your weaknesses and in doing so, put a plan in place to develop one and negate the overall effects of the other. If you ignore your weaknesses, they can only be linked to your threats, but if you acknowledge them and work on them, they become part of your life’s toolkit and not just something others can attack you with.

Now to Resilience:

Dealing with and managing weaknesses is by no means an easy win. This is where you have to show insight, foresight and hindsight. Insight, because you understand who you are, foresight because you are aware of how you need to be to progress and hindsight, because you’ve seen the effect of this issue in the past.


Insight+foresight +hindsight = Resilience

Weakness therefore is something you manage as opposed to something you are exposed by or help captive by. You control it, it doesn’t control you. 

Working It Out?? No Way…I Can’t Do That

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‘IT’ can be anything from the meaning of life to the pay rise you think you deserve but haven’t really merited. Be real with your mindset and expectations will never be too far ahead of your abilities. No one can coach you into a successful person per say, into a ‘go-getter’ etc. Coaches who are good at their job give you the necessary ‘space’ to work out your own issues and needs. They don’t diagnose them for you. You have to do that for yourself. You have want to ‘work it out’. If not….read on.

We don’t like the idea of having to work ‘it’ out because:

  • We prefer to have things handed to us rather than have to work for them
  • Anything that challenges our need to be right automatically makes us disinterested 
  • The idea of having to expend energy on pursuits that we can’t guarantee a selfish personal outcome for is beyond our imagination let alone our grasp 
  • We would prefer to continue in ignorance rather than face the task of hard work, effort and sacrifice that may change both our mindset and worldview 
  • We want to believe that things are the are the they way are even if they are causing us no great benefit as human beings 
  • We struggle with what we don’t immediately understand
  • We will follow the crowd under the assumption that others are doing what we would have done had we be in the position of decision maker
  • If there is no apparent need for effort, we see that as evidence for us to leave matters as they are
  • If others have worked it out, then we can copy them 
  • Working it out means we have to act and we generally don’t like being put on the spot to do so 




The Easy Way Out…


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What we are looking for is an ‘easy way out’ of life’s anomalies,  because life itself is pretty demanding, can be draining and overly dramatic. Why?..because:

  • We prefer to receive rather than have to give as a long term strategy 
  • We like to identify the path of least resistance for achievement of our goals
  • Our attitude towards hard work is resistant until we see the rewards of someone’ else’s hard work and then it becomes resentful 
  • We baulk at the idea of success being related to factors that are generally out of our direct control 
  • We like to feel important, but dislike the idea of responsibility 
  • We want to be liked, but don’t like having to like others for the same reason
  • We suspect others are up to no good, because every so often we are
  • We dislike the use of too much emotion, but use it to get what we want most of the time
  • We like things to be under control as long as the element of control belongs to us
  • We want instant gratification for being nice and decent, but want careful and profound reflection to be practiced when others behave the same way with us

These are by no means intended to be immutable relates or absolute truths, but what they are, is an attempt to say what is real in relation to the behaviour noticeable in the time we live in.

What’s Wrong With Being Real?

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We live in a world that is constantly moving the boundaries between reality and fantasy. We are almost at the point where the two have merged into an ever-present networked, interconnected and ubiquitous sensory ‘rush’. People are quick to point out that they have the ‘right’ to define ‘real’ as they see fit, but you see the trouble with this is that if what you have defined as your ‘real’ doesn’t then manifest that way, your sense of loss, despair and hopelessness is generally ‘off the scale’.

This sounds serious no? I mean, you are bombarded with narratives, images and social norms that condition your mind to accept that being real is now connected to being anything at any given time. Being real could be thinking you can climb a mountain while sitting on your couch, it could be sailing around the world from your bed or being a movie star from your desk at work. Our imaginations have always been powerful arbiters of our desires, dreams and ambitions. There is nothing wrong with that at all, but what happens when external forces start to wrestle away our sense of imagination and replace it with what they think we are thinking? 

Artificial intelligence is artificial for a reason. Virtual reality is virtual for a reason. Our perception is linked to our personal experience and our perspective is shaped through this perception and that of the external world around us. There is very little left in our digitally controlled world that reminds our conscience of what the attributes of the word ‘real’ are anymore. Somewhat ironically, the conscience is the only unlimited gift we posses and it’s the exact thing that brands, products, advertisers and corporations are all chasing us for. The conscience expands as our understanding of realisation does and this is what is linked to the concept of self-actualisation. Therefore, the conscience is tied to the self and the self is our most powerful tool in our own hands. When this tool is at the mercy of external influences, its configuration (perception, awareness, hope, fear, doubt, certainty, pain, love etc.) is no longer managed by what is ‘real’. It is instead managed by a complex network of subtle and sustained influences that over time combine to form a ‘pseudo-conscience’.

If this all getting a little too ‘Star Trek’, then let’s bring to the ‘real’ (gotta love the irony). Ask yourself, what is ‘hype’ and what is ‘real’. Hype is what you build around something. Real is what you build, feel, sense, touch, taste, understand, know and be part of. You can of course be ‘part’ of hype, but what happens when hype wear off? This is the difference between ‘real’ as lived and understood by your own conscience and ‘real’ as sent to you by algorithms and hype. Real is what you are when you attach only the appropriate value to things as opposed to trying to ‘add value’ to things for the sake of it. Real is a state of mind. Real is a state of being at one with reality and perception. Real is the part of you that knows ‘you’ the best. Everything else is trying to convince you that ‘real is not really’ in your hand’s at all…this leave me to ask the question…are you real?