Do We Need to Compensate for Our Weaknesses?

I don’t attempt to compensate for my weakness because the term compensate implies an exchange based on needed something extra to make up for something else. 

I seek to understand, anticipate and address my weaknesses through effective risk management, decision making and critical reflection.

Weakness on its own is not a ‘deficiency’ or something to hide or be ashamed of. When combined with actions that are ill conceived, weakness manifests and has potentially negative outcomes.

When dealt with appropriately, weakness is part of a state of being that offers one a route map to avoid and one to follow. 

How can some view weakness as a strength?

This is all about perception, bottom line and resilience, top line.

Perception first:

Using the famous SWOT analysis as an analogy for one’s life, how we handle decisions, changes and circumstances more or less dictates how we navigate through our years. By using the SWOT model you can start to see that a strength is relative to the opportunity and threat that coexist with it. Strength therefore, doesn’t live in isolation of the other elements of the model. Weakness is exactly the same. Weakness is relative to opportunity and threat too. Now here’s the cool part;

By understanding your strengths you can isolate your weaknesses and in doing so, put a plan in place to develop one and negate the overall effects of the other. If you ignore your weaknesses, they can only be linked to your threats, but if you acknowledge them and work on them, they become part of your life’s toolkit and not just something others can attack you with.

Now to Resilience:

Dealing with and managing weaknesses is by no means an easy win. This is where you have to show insight, foresight and hindsight. Insight, because you understand who you are, foresight because you are aware of how you need to be to progress and hindsight, because you’ve seen the effect of this issue in the past.

Ironically….

Insight+foresight +hindsight = Resilience

Weakness therefore is something you manage as opposed to something you are exposed by or help captive by. You control it, it doesn’t control you. 

Where Does Strength Come From?

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How do we engender will and power?

  • Accepting our unique differences and limitations as part of our reality 
  • Learning to work with these limitations to the best of our ability
  • Stop comparing ourselves to others 
  • Realising that the ego is not always our ally
  • Knowing which thoughts to trust and which to ignore 
  • Seeing weaknesses as a part of a learning process and not something to be ashamed of
  • Accepting individual responsibility for your decision and life’s outcomes 
  • Learning that being strong is different to being angry or aggressive
  • That sometimes what you don’t say gives you better levels strength and fortitude than reacting without thought    

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